I don’t have any sisters. I grew up with my mom trying to raise me to be a girly girl all the while I was essentially a tomboy. It was very frustrating. It still is.
As a child, I played with my brothers, I climbed up trees, I rode bikes, and even had a skateboard I never quite learned how to ride. My memory of that time is very vague, but I do remember having a few girlfriends at school although my social circle at the time was basically my brothers and the neighborhood boys.
I think that it was during that time that I learned that girls and boys are essentially the same. There is no “men are from Mars women are from Venus”. Luckily, I figured out at an early age that the only real difference between men and women is biology. This saved me a lot of stress during adolescence and it got me a lot of guy friends as a young adult. It also made me “one of the guys”.
Being “one of the guys” has been a double edged sword. It has allowed me to get close enough to the action to see what’s really going on, but at the same time it has literally turned me into a long haired, skirt wearing, stiletto loving boy. Needless to say, this doesn’t get me very many dates.
Anyway, as a teen I began to spend more time with girls. I never had tons of girlfriends, but the ones I had were usually like me. I liked that. I liked that we agreed on the fundamental principles of gender relations.
Then we began looking for “the one”.
(This is why I say that guys have it easy)
It seems to me that when men and women become interested in someone they get weird. I think that the quintessential difference between the sexes is how weird they become. The whole thing becomes a weird game of “me Tarzan-you Jane” that not everyone can play, but most people don’t’ care to admit to that.
So women, for example, become aggressive. I am not saying that women should sit at home and wait for Prince Charming to come knocking; however, many women just throw themselves at the object of their affection. Very rarely do men have to do much work.
I say that this is because of the competition.
Everyone knows that there are more women than men (1.04:1 ratio). I read somewhere that it is more likely for a woman over 45 to die in a terrorist attack than it is for her to get married. Most of us have noticed that men prefer them young. And let’s not forget that traditionally, it is men who decide the terms of the relationship.
Women may have an advantage in terms of how physical the relationship gets, but that’s about it, and even then, a lot of the time they use this advantage as a manipulation technique.
A lot of women’s self-worth is directly proportional to whether or not they are with someone. A lot of men’s self-confidence comes from having a trophy girlfriend. Hmmm… this is probably why you see so many hot girls with really ugly guys though not as often the other way around.
This post is getting long and I should really get to work. If you have an opinion, please share it with the rest of the class!! Happy Friday :)