Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Positive plus negative equals negative

I think that pretty much everyone has at least one negative quality. Sometimes is really easy to spot it; but some other times you really have to look for it. In either case, it’s there and unless said quality is extremely unbearable, most people learn to live with it.

On the most part, I am pretty tolerant when it comes to people and their shortcomings. This may be because unless I am completely unattached from the person, I am willing to overlook their flaws. Hard to say. But since I tend to dwell on things, by completely ignoring the bad I am happier.

The only negative quality I can’t overlook under any circumstance is dishonesty. In any of its forms, dishonesty, especially when it's done purposely and deliberately, is (at least for me) one of the most horrible traits ever. People who are not open and candid are not good people. At least I don’t think they are.

Among the dishonest tough, there are two kinds of people who are just the worse:
1. Those who lie by omission.
Example:
Me: What did you eat?
Dishonest person: Rice and fish
*the actual truth*: Sushi

2. Those who practice selective story-telling.
Example:
Me: I like Klimt because his use of the color yellow gives depth to his paintings.
Later.
Dishonest person: She said that Klimt’s paintings have no depth.

As far as I’m concerned, people who lie without a REALLY good reason (sparing someone’s feelings is not a good reason) should go spend all of eternity in the 9th circle of Dante’s Hell. Abusing someone’s trust and confidence is never acceptable.

Pushing out of your life someone who never had the best intentions at heart is always a good thing.

14 comments:

Gabemaster said...

I agree, even though they say truth sometimes hurts is better to know it rather than to believe a fairy tale as if it was a fact.

Robert_M said...

uh oh.....you just described my blog

KARAKALA said...

And the worst ones are those sociopathic liars that over-exaggerate their every lie.

A dishonest person doesn't have any kind of remorse when it comes to other people's feelings.

That's why I tend to stay away from those kinds of individuals.

Bracuta said...

I hate dishonesty, I hate lies...
I think the 9th Circle of Dante's Hell is not bad enough for those types of people...

AVA said...

I sooooo agree with you Annush. I have absolutely no respect for people who lie just for the sake of it. It gets on my nerves!!!
Although I love to catch people in their lies, I almost never stay quiet about it.

Grant said...

I always agree 100% with everything you say. Wait, that's not true. :p How do you feel about hyperbole? Some people consider exaggerating for humorous effect to be a form of lying, but I've always thought such silliness is okay as long as it's obvious you're being silly.

Jonas said...

I guess the only part I disagree with is that sparing someone's feelings (I think) is okay. You don't have to hurt someone unless it is necessary. And that is usually on rare occasions. The sociopaths, yes they are destructive, horrible people.

But sometimes one's own honesty, isn't always the truth. The two do not go hand in hand. Therefore, if you can avoid hurting one's feelings, I would. Just my humble opinion.

Jonas

KARAKALA said...

I agree with Jonas.

I feel that in order to save face and avoid future problems it's best to ignore and try not to hurt anyone's feelings.

LocuTus of Borg said...

I am trying to be better. I do not lie outright, but I omit things more often than I should. You want honesty right? I omit those things to people or in situation because I do not want to cause a "ruckus" or to hurt the other person's feelings. What I am trying to do is become more aware of the situation so that I can comment and talk them in the honest and straightforward manner without having to feel I have to omit things to protect their and my own feelings. Such a vicious cycle grrrr.

Angy said...

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy you avoid many many problems. I prefer the truth above anything else.

SA-Eric said...

I like catching someone in a lie and calling them on it. But, I thought you said...

H_E_n_R_Y said...

THANK YOU!

I freakin' hate dishonest people. I like to tell the truth, at all times. Little pointless lies are the most annoying cuz it's like "Can't you just tell the fuckin' truth?!? You gain nothing by lying!"

Anyway, good post. Take care. Chao.

grody jo-dee said...

i totally agree. one of things that angers me the most is lying by omission. i believe the purpose of doing that is to mislead the other person. it may not be a technical lie, but it is a lie in spirit. it drives me crazy!!

mw said...

You read Sedaris, right? Even speaking complete truths, you are speaking a lie by omission.