After yesterday's post I got an email or two commenting on how strict I can be when it comes to people.
At first I was somewhat offended over what seemed like a baseless assumption; however, after giving it some thought, this is probably true. I hold people to standards that they may never be able to meet and then as a result, people inevitably fail me.
The higher the pedestal the harder the fall.
Today I realized that these are probably my worse qualities: I am critical and judgmental.
On the upside, I make no secret of it. On the downside, it never seems like I am this way towards everybody (including myself) just "everyone else".
I always thought that it was a good thing that I give everyone the benefit of the doubt and give everyone a score of 10 (unless I just don't like them) upon first meeting. Although I am of the belief that it is better to be pleasantly surprised than disappoitned, I never applied this concept to my relationships with people and in retrospect this has caused me a lot of heartache and has caused me to look down on relatively good people.
This is especially true with those I really care about. The more I love the higher the bar.
Nobody is perfect and I always expect that everyone will be so and this is probably because I cringe at the thought that I will not be able to deliver what's expected of me; to be the person that they need me to be. Though I march to my own drummer and always have, I've learned to make concessions so that at least in terms of what's important I'll be able to please everyone.
But you can't please everybody.
I now think that it is better to start at 0 and let people work their way up and earn their points. This is going to be my new M.O. If I fail someone I'll still be pissed, but I will try to be more leniant on how I see other people. People do make mistakes. I will try to remember that.