Yesterday I admitted in writing to the the world that if I ever get married I would want to be a housewife. Apparently this decision would have such a profound effect on world peace, poverty, the Ozone layer and TomKat's baby that everyone has felt the need to express THEIR dissatisfaction with what's ultimately MY decision.
Since when is being a housewife or a stay at home mom a bad decision?
Since when is having traditional values a waste of education?
Since when does putting family above work a bad decision?
Let me tell you a little story...
My mom has been on the work-force for as long as I can remember. She has somehow been able to take care of business, her family, and her home simultaneously. I applaud the way she has done it, but I am the first to admit that she has had tons of help. Growing up we had a grandma, nannies and housekeepers and drivers. I can't complain of the way I was raised because all things being considered as she was self-employed she was around more than your average working mother; however, I think back on certain times and I remember that there were days when she left for work before we left for school and was home after we were in bed.
I think that her drive may have cost her at least one or two marriages.
I wonder what it would be like if she had taken a more active role in our lives aside from delegating.
I don't judge her though. I never have. everyone is different and I know that she may not have survived the whole housewife spiel. We each do what is our calling to do and the trick is not biting off more than you can chew.
I grew up knowing what is like to have a working mom, I've grown up with ambition and curiosity and the desire to do things. But above all things, I desire to do things well and in my extremely perfectionist book, I can't do things half way and I won't.
For me, family has always come first and if one day someone manges to sweet talk me into getting married I will put the same care into that institution I willing went into as I did when I was living for/by myself. For me calling home and asking "what's for dinner?" is not an option. It's also not an option for me to have a child and let someone else raise it if I can do it myself.
All that money my parents spent on education will be better spent if I use it to raise a well rounded child than selling it to the highest bidder in corporate America. People like to bitch and whine about how children now a days are so disrespectful, and arrogant and this and that and the other but they never stop to think that this is what you get when you let a child be raised by the TV or a 12 year old babysitter.
My whole life I've been the first one to demand equal treatment (in regards to gender) in school, at home and even at work. I don't know how or when it became "anti-feminist" and even "anti-woman" to choose to run your home. Hell, the way I look at it a home is like a corporation. I'm choosing to be the CEO whereas I'm giving Prince Charming the title of CFO.
NOBODY should be judging me for wanting what I want and what's more, we should show a little respect to those stay at home moms out there. More than our sympathy they deserve our respect just as much if not more than the CEOs of corporations out there who climb up the corporate ladder sometimes at the cost of what I think are the truly important things in life.